Get Yourself Grounded – A Little Bit of Why, Much More How

This is an older post, from a former blog, but it has a lot of good information. And let’s face it. In this time of self-quarantine, work from home, and Covid-19, we could all use a little grounding, yeah?

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But why should you get grounded? Yeah, that’s a long answer. Let’s shortcut it a bit and I’ll say that grounding is all about helping yourself feel safe, secure, and rooted into the here and now. So it’s great when you’re feeling scattered or flighty or unsafe.

You can go through some complicated moves to get yourself grounded. You can do 20-minute guided meditations that walk you through a lush forest in the height of spring and get all kinds of grounded and that’s groovy. But if you’re grounding because you’re having an anxiety attack? Trust me when I tell you that you need something faster.

Grounding is all about helping yourself feel safe, secure, and rooted into the here and now.

So, here are some of my favorite quick ways to get grounded. Many of these you can do anywhere at any time.

1. Go Outside

Easy enough, this one. Go outside, if you can. Stand in the grass, put your hand on a tree, get barefoot. You don’t have to wait long for this to kick in. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and let Nature do some work. If you have some extra time, while you’re standing amongst Nature with your eyes closed, try to visualize roots sprouting from your feet, deep into the earth. Literally root yourself.

2. Hand Over Heart

This one is perfect when you can’t get outside and you really don’t have the wherewithal to visualize much of anything. Put your hand over your heart and take five slow, deep breaths. The deep breathing and the hand over your heart work together to ground and calm you right away.

3. Crystals, Rocks, Stones

I’m a crystal hound, so this is one of my absolute favorite ways to ground. If you’ve got crystals available, take advantage. Some of the best for grounding:

 Hematite
 Black tourmaline
 Smoky topaz
 Smoky quartz
 Obsidian
 Onyx
 Clear quartz

In a pinch and no crystals on you? Grab any old rock or stone. They’re all grounding, I promise. They’re of the earth and they’ll help you to root yourself.

(Side note from 2020: No crystals, no rocks? Or you want to work with a specific crystal? It can happen. Do a search and find a picture of the crystal you want to work with. You can print the picture, save it to your phone gallery, or just keep looking at it. Ask the crystal to help you from where it is. You’ll be able to get the benefits. <3 )

4. Essential Oils

Love me some essential oils. If you’re new to them, you need to read up before just throwing them on your body. I’ve been using them for 20 years and I’m still learning. Always dilute, don’t diffuse them around cats (cats cannot process EOs), and really figure out what you’re doing first.

Oils I like for grounding:

 Cedarwood (both Atlas and Virginia)
 Frankincense
 Myrrh
 Palo Santo
 Patchouli
 Sandalwood
 Vetiver
 Spikenard
 Lavender

5. Cleansing with Smoke

I love me some smoke cleansing. It clears the energy and puts me right in my happy place, every single time. My two favorites for this are sage and Palo Santo, but incense can work, too. Now, you can’t use smoke everywhere, which is where Florida water can come in. It’s not water from Florida, even though it sounds like it.  It’s actually alcohol, usually vodka, with essential oils mixed in and then left to get to know each other for a bit. You can buy some, but if you’re into essential oils, you can make your own much cheaper. BONUS: Florida water doubles as a killer perfume.

6. Reiki

I find Reiki incredibly grounding. It clears energies and leaves me feeling centered and solid. But not everybody has access to Reiki every time that they need it, so it’s not always a fast emergency grounding technique. If you’re finding it difficult to ground through other means, though, you might find that a few sessions of Reiki help you to clear the way and ground on your own much more readily. (If you’re interested, let me know and we can set up a remote session.)

Keep the process of grounding easy so you can do it any time you feel the need.

So those are *my* favorite ways to ground – got more you can suggest? Put them in the comments!

On Mercury in Retrograde

I first published this post on a now-defunct domain, but as we all know, the domain may get hosed, but the Wayback Machine prolly has a copy. 🙂

I’ll repost the relevant portions below, redacting the bits about that year’s Mercury Retrograde schedule. If you’re curious, I’ll post this year’s information below, along with anything I feel is lacking after I re-read and resist the urge to edit beyond redacting the schedule.


Let’s talk about Mercury in retrograde for a minute, because it’s on everyone’s minds.

Most people view Mercury in retrograde as a bad thing, but I think we have to look for the positive.

What Is Mercury Retrograde?

To start with, Mercury is the planet in our solar system that is closest to the sun. It only takes about 88 of our days (here on Earth) for Mercury to complete a full cycle around the sun. About three or four times a year, Mercury does something strange from our vantage point here on Earth. It looks as if it slows down and even backs up. This is an optical illusion, but it’s unnerving. So we gave it a name: Retrograde.

The retrograde period can last anywhere from a couple of weeks to closer to three weeks. There’s also a “shadow period” before and after, so the effects of Mercury in retrograde might hit you a little earlier or seem to last a little longer than the actual dates.

Mercury–named for the Roman god Mercury, the Messenger–rules over quite a bit, astrologically speaking. There’s communication, for starters, based on that whole “messenger” deal. But there is also intelligence, the mind and memory, and self-expression, among others.

So What’s the Big Deal?

OK, so when Mercury goes into retrograde, the implication is that whatever Mercury rules or affects goes a bit haywire. That means there are:

• Mixups
• Delays
• Technology goes wonky
• Messages get lost
• Misunderstandings brew
• Contracts and agreements are iffy
• Dreams and goals can get lost

Most people who talk about Mercury in retrograde have some Big Advice on what you should avoid. These tips include avoiding:

• Big purchases
• Big repairs
• Big changes, like marriage, divorce, etc.
• Traveling
• Starting a new job
• Making agreements
• Starting projects
• Holding important meetings

This might make you feel better, but come on. That’s usually two to three weeks out of your life. Let’s lighten up a bit.

Looking for the Positives

Mercury in retrograde gives you a chance to slow down and pay a little bit more attention. Say you know that messages can be delayed. So you slow down and give yourself extra time to craft them and to send them accurately. It allows you to take a break. Observe what’s going on around you. Contemplate life a bit.

This period of retrograde is perfect for second chances, redoing something—anything with “re” in front of it, really. You can catch up on all those time-consuming tasks you’ve been avoiding because you didn’t have time for them before.

It’s also perfect for this time of year. You can reflect on what you’ve already accomplished and then review your goals and plans. Then, when Mercury goes direct, you’re ready.

Helpful Tips for Surviving Mercury in Retrograde

If you’re determined to carry on with life full speed ahead during Mercury’s retrograde, go for it. But some of these tips might help you feel you’ve got a better handle on things.

Check your plans over and over and over again, especially travel plans. And bring carry-on luggage.

Always be prepared for delays! They’re gonna happen. Bring a book.

Mail packages and letters early. And double check those addresses before you send them off.

In fact, double check everything.

Keep your receipts. Especially if you’re determined to buy something big.

Keep your tech charged.

Remember to BREATHE.


So when is Mercury going Retrograde in 2020? Glad you asked.

  • Shadow: February 2 – 16, Retrograde: February 16 – March 9, Post Shadow: March 9 – 16
  • Shadow: June 2 – June 18, Retrograde: June 18 – July 12, Post Shadow: July 12 – July 26
  • Shadow: September 23 – October 13, Retrograde: October 13 – November 3, Post Shadow: November 3 – November 19

That should help you to get through this year’s Mercury Retrogrades. Remember, this doesn’t have to be scary or something you develop a phobia about. Mercury just wants you to pay closer attention.

What gets you through Mercury in Retrograde? Feel free to share below!

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On Spiritual Bullying

Ever meet someone who seems to want to take over your spiritual well-being? How about someone who has dire proclamations from your guides/your goddesses/your ancestors? They might tell you you’re going to *die* if you don’t follow this advice exactly or maybe your soul is in peril. They probably tell you that they have your best interests at heart and that they care so much about you.

Nah. They’re a spiritual bully.

While this term tends to be used most often for organized religious bullying – see religious cults – what I’m talking about tends to happen a lot with psychics or other sensitives.

I had a friend once who was having a rough time in her life and went to a psychic. She invited me once and I wasn’t impressed. (Later she told me her psychic was scared of me because I was an “old soul.” Pretty sure what she saw was my bullshit detector going off.) But my friend had been going for several sessions – even when she couldn’t afford it – because her psychic told her, and I quote, “she had a curse on her that only the psychic could remove.” ….for a fee, of course. I never knew how much my friend paid her psychic in the end, but I’m sure it was quite a bit.

That’s all bullshit. It’s a way to pry cash out of your wallet and to put you in a fear-based mindset.

There are two main settings from which you can view life – this is oversimplified, but sometimes we complicate things too much. You can approach life, the universe, and everything from a fear-based position or from a love-based position. People who want to manipulate and abuse you don’t really want you sitting in a love-based mindset. Fear-based is much more useful to them because you’re more likely to do what they want you to do, whatever that happens to be.

So when someone shows up in your inbox or somewhere else with messages from your guides/your goddesses/your ancestors, assess what they’re telling you. Is your soul in danger? Is the message only one that’s dire? Are you going to literally *die* if you don’t follow this advice, right now, exactly like this? Because here’s the thing: These are YOUR guides, goddesses, and ancestors.

This attitude comes from manipulation and control, NOT from making sure that you’re getting what you need. This messenger? This bully? Does not care about you at all.

Your guides/goddesses/ancestors have a lot of ways to get messages to you. I’m not saying that there won’t sometimes be intermediaries, but if the intermediaries you’re encountering are unnecessarily dire and are pushing you, literally or figuratively, to do what they want you to do, they’re a bully.

True messages for you will get to you. The Universe is not new to dealing with humans. We need a clue-by-four over the head to get stuff. You’ll get your message, but you don’t need the bullying.

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It’s Like Herdin’ Cats, Y’all

If you’ve spent any time around cats, you know that they go where they are wont to go. Even when you want them to go in one particular direction.

That’s sort of my thing here in the Village, although I’m not entirely sure what that means just yet. Lucky, you, you’re in on the journey!

My understanding of the whole thing is that my title is literal as well as metaphorical. Oh, and I’ll call you on your bullshit, too.

And isn’t there a whole lot of bullshit going on lately for those of us with built-in bullshit detectors to call folks on these days? It’s flat exhausting.

So there’s going to be a little of everything here, near as I can tell. Some meditations on a fucked-up world have been nudging me. Some urgings to talk to you about some odd things and some mundane things have been poking.

I live the life of a cat, pretty much. I have my routines, but if you start to count on or to demand those routines, well. Let’s just say that my wiring is unique and suddenly we all have a new routine. 🙂

In essence, welcome to my little corner of the Village, and buckle up, buttercup.

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